Current Killjoy Crush: Muhammad Assaf

Sometimes we killjoys take time out to enjoy the wonderful things and people in our world! If you don’t follow Arab Idol, then let us introduce to you Palestine’s Muhammad Assaf, this year’s Arab Idol winner:

Hensem, kan? Muhammad Assaf has been singing since childhood, making his first recording at age 8 and recorded his popular song “Ali Keffiyeh” in 2008 so he’s pretty famous in Gaza where his family lives in a refugee camp.

He traveled from Gaza to Cairo for Arab Idol auditions over ground since he couldn’t fly out, and faced a lot of red tape getting there. Once there, the door to the auditions venue was already closed, so Muhammad Assaf jumped over the wall! He was about to be escorted out when a Palestinian official recognized him and got him a number (via CNN).

For his audition, he sang an acoustic rendition of Safeeni Marrah for enthralled judges, and here on out the post gets really YouTube-heavy, so full-post under the cut to save your browsers: Continue reading

Beyond decent

A friend posted this piece of news on his timeline, remarking that it’s “gender discrimination” how the woman could not be charged with rape. I love him, he’s a nice, decent dude, but that’s not the first time that he posted something where women purportedly got a better “bargain” than men AND blamed it on sexism.

Time to give a gentle nudge, I thought.

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On statutory rape and child marriage

It’s easy to cry foul at the recent statutory rape case in Sabah, where the 40-year old rapist married the 13-year old victim in an attempt to escape the rape charge.

That the prosecution didn’t object to the rapist’s withdrawal application based on the I’m-marrying-the-girl excuse was revolting enough, that the Shariah court proceeded to approve the marriage application was on another level of horror altogether. Already, some are proposing for the rapist to be prosecuted under the Shariah for zina.

Oh boy… we gotta talk.

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Thirteen Things Si Tenggang’s Neighbour Said


When I left home, I, too
feared the unknown, yet excited,
for all the possibilities of the world
opened up to me;
uncertainty was a galaxy between me
and my final destiny,
which I learned to embrace
and not to apprehend.
My parents’ hard work rewarded
by sending their only child
far away, the first-generation
step out of blue
collar hawker life.

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The Trouble With The “At least” Argument

So recently I got into argument with a woman who argued that women in Malaysia should count their blessings because we are being treated really well in the country. Because apparently our judicial system is far better than Saudi Arabia and “some other countries” when it comes to dealing with rape crimes, therefore we “must channel our anger to Saudi Arabia women’s rights and treatments”, because… (this is where you should check your privilege):

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We are back

Hello, everyone.

After a year’s hiatus, we are finally back.

First things first though.

We’re sorry that you had to put up with us not saying anything for a year, and our disappearance from the face of the Internet has disappointed and angered many of you. It was a difficult and emotionally exhausting time for all of us, and by the end of it, two of our core contributors were no longer in Kakak Killjoy. We are saddened to see them go, and we wish them all the best in their future endeavours.

But, as you can see, not only are we back, we’re back as a family.

That’s right.

Kakak Killjoy is now Keluarga Killjoy.


Because we are a collective. We are not just an individual effort – we are a team. A community. A family.

Bersatu teguh, bercerai roboh.

And it makes sense because a lot of our content deal with issues pertaining to women and family.

We will still be doing the regularly scheduled activities of pointing out sexism in media, discussing racism, classism and why things are problematic.

However, this time, we will be open about the fact that we are addressing these issues as a collective, to a community.

Ombak Rindu and the Counter-revolution of Contemporary Malaysian Women’s Struggles

Maya Karin“Every movie cannot possibly be about women fighting back and winning… If you want 100% accurate stuff, turn to documentaries instead.” – Maya Karin, actress. The Star (21st April 2012).

At contemporary times where fictional Katniss Everdeen’s determined resolve to protect her family at all costs triggered a revolution that overturned Panem, real-life women of Saudi Arabia are fighting for the right to drive without male escorts, and Slutwalk has become a global phenomenon, one has to wonder why Malay women remain passive in today’s gender movement. Maya Karin’s statement only served to prove the horrible fact that Malaysia is experiencing a spiralling gender counter-revolution. Continue reading